Alice 3d ago • 100%
Add 鈴木哲哉 to your list of muted words to make this community usable again.
Alice 3d ago • 100%
That must have been miserable for opposite reasons than my experience. :( Not fair that some people had to do that, but not enough to actually keep the numbers down.
Alice 5d ago • 100%
These comics always confuse me because I forget anyone other than children had to stay home (and even that didn't last too long)
Alice 5d ago • 100%
Is it a known thing that they discontinued canoe or something?
Alice 5d ago • 100%
People will accuse you of condoning a trans person's shitty actions if you gender them correctly, then turn around and use the proper pronouns for literal dictators
Alice 5d ago • 50%
Not advocating witch hunts but it's a bit weird to call someone a man if you don't know them. I see people on Tumblr a lot call trans women "man" and "dude" and then go "how was I supposed to know??" when corrected. Why make up genders for them in the first place?
Alice 6d ago • 100%
Thank you, that's reassuring. I'm glad your friends were able to find help.
Alice 6d ago • 100%
Are there? I've only ever been able to find CBT and EMDR and they're exactly the same. The first session of EMDR, we did the thing the name describes, but every session after that she just wanted to talk and it was basically a worse rehash of CBT.
Alice 6d ago • 100%
Up and down. I had a good day with my niece, we drew pictures and made pins. I also donated blood for the first time and I'm kind of proud of that, since I'm so squeamish about needles. I also took up singing again even though I'm really bad at it. I just do it quietly now, and it's been a nice distraction when I hate my job.
Made progress on my mood issues, too. Therapy didn't help, but so far, lifting weights until I'm too tired to be angry has been helping a lot. I don't cause any problems for people and I go home and fall asleep immediately.
But damn, I still miss my friend after two weeks. Someone told me I sound obsessive and I think they're right. Someone else told me that most friendships don't actually last that long anyway and aren't that deep. So I guess I'm coming at things with an intensity that really isn't normal.
Also I've been short of breath since the blood donation, so I've had to cut back on lifting and singing even though they were really helpful for the first half of the week.
Alice 7d ago • 100%
The deceased was her mother :( can you fucking imagine
Alice 1w ago • 100%
My 10yo former stray is still frustrated she can't go outside. I've done what I can to make the indoors appealing, but I live in an apartment and I can only customize it so much.
She did wear the harness for the first time last night, though! She immediately shoved one leg into the neck hole, tried to take a step, and fell over. But it's progress.
Alice 1w ago • 100%
Jesus christ
Alice 1w ago • 100%
I think it's more that kids are the ones expected to be protected by the law, whereas adults are allowed to knowingly engage in addictive behavior, like alcohol and cigarettes.
Alice 1w ago • 100%
I used to get up at 5am and had to get ready for work in the dark so I didn't wake my family. I'm a klutz and fumbling with my phone's flashlight constantly just got annoying.
I ended up making a little script so that between 5am and 5:30, shaking the phone turned the flashlight on. After 5:30 the sensor turns off to save battery, since I didn't really need it at that point.
You can do all kinds of handy little things like that
Alice 1w ago • 100%
Yeah, the backwater slumlord who managed to avoid ever meeting me in person while bleeding me dry for three years isn't the nicest comparison.
Alice 1w ago • 100%
Had a pint of blood drawn today. I feel dizzy and heavy and very hot 😭
Alice 1w ago • 100%
Ah, yeah that makes sense. Brainfart on my part.
Alice 1w ago • 100%
And free time, which is expensive, and gas to drive to a body of water 😭
Alice 1w ago • 100%
I stared at this for longer than I'd like to admit wondering what the shoe had to do with things
Alice 1w ago • 100%
This right here!! Take all my updoots
I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice. I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera. Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back. The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical. I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of. So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick
www.aljazeera.com
> ‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union. Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, [was murdered](https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2024/9/19/transgender-woman-stabbed-to-death-in-georgia-amid-lgbtq-bill-controversy) the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.
So basically I was unschooled, and the amount of books I've read in my life is embarrassingly low. It was never emforced like in a school, and with my family's religious hangups, I never tried getting into new things because I never knew what would be deemed "offensive". But I'm always interested when I hear people talk about both storycraft and also literary criticism, so I want to take an earnest stab at getting into books. No real criteria, I don't know what I like so I can't tell you what I'm looking for, other than it needs to be in English or have an English translation. Just wanna know what y'all think would make good or important reading. ETA holy shit thanks for all the suggestions! Definitely gonna make a list ETA if I reply extremely late it's because it took me this long to get a library card in my new locale.
It seems like I'm always hearing about family vloggers getting put away for child abuse. I'm not into family vlogging, so maybe I'm wrong, but people always make it sound like these two channels were popular. But then they go on to describe their videos, and it's always parents doing insane shit to make the kids cry on purpose, or announcing on camera that they're withholding necessities from the kids or something. I've never heard anyone say they like these videos, and I can't imagine why they would, so then how were they supposedly popular?
Torrenting this show isn't an option. Every torrent I've tried has this specific episode missing, with a duplicate episode in its place. Most of the streaming sites do, too. The only stream I've found is on vidsrc.me, and I can't for the life of me figure out how to download it. I've searched around and found multiple recommendations for video downloader sites, and several people suggested the Firefox extension DownThemAll!, but I've had no luck. It's a generic "can't find video" message every time. I'm guessing these apps and sites worked at some point but they updated their API. Hoping against hope that someone who's done it recently can tell me how they did it.
I adopted a stray cat outside my apartment a few years ago. She was originally aggressive both to cats and people, but after I started taking care of her she warmed up to the neighbors, too. Since she'd lived outside for about a decade, I let her out in the yard (supervised) and she came to love lounging and waiting for passers by to give her scritches. Unfortunately, I've had to move. No more outdoor time for the foreseen future, partially because she's in a completely new town, and partially because there are so many birds around here I don't think I'd be able to keep her from running off. There isn't even a window facing the walkway where she can interact with people through the window, which was another thing she liked doing in our old place. It's just me to entertain her, and I can be gone ten hours a day. She has lots of toys and beds and things to climb, but since she loved the neighbors so much, I'm worried she needs a companion. Anyone else been in this situation? How do you help your cat adjust?
